Guiding the Gifted Child

By Maggie Hogan

How can you tell if your child is gifted?

- His bedroom looks like a mad scientist’s laboratory.
- You never know what you can throw out - was it an experiment or leftovers?
- Your van is part taxi, part lab, and a large part Bookmobile.
- Your 7-year-old has recreated the Roman Empire in elaborate detail . . . with Legos™.
- Your 14-year-old speaks and writes a foreign language fluently . . . one of his own invention.
- Your 2-year-old insists on putting together his jigsaw puzzles ‘color-side down’ so it won’t be so easy.
- At the bookstore you discover your 9-year-old in the check-out line with $500 worth of science books.
- Your 8-year-old computes how much interest you owe him on back allowances . . . in his head.
- Your 4-year-old cries when she hears news reports about a famine in Africa.
- Your outgoing 5-year-old child strikes up a conversation with a stranger on a plane which results in his deriving a mature grasp of negative numbers. You respond, “Thank you . . . I think.”
- You told your son that he and his friends must stay outside to play. Later you find that they took the TV and Nintendo up on the roof. He said that they were, after all, playing outside . . .

Perhaps you would like a more formal list of characteristics?

This is a partial list of attributes commonly found in gifted children. Certainly most gifted children will not exhibit all of these attributes! In addition, some characteristics may be hidden and, because of a host of good reasons, may not appear until much later.

- Developed sense of humor
- Does things earlier than peers
- Does things better than peers
- Very different perspective than peers
- Intense focus on one or two hobbies or interests
- Sometimes (but certainly not always) capable and mature for age
- Sees patterns - both concrete and abstract
- Precocious use of language (If verbally gifted)
- Prefers to do math work in head (If mathematically gifted)
- Active imagination
- Extremely competitive
- May show extreme emotional sensitivity
- Original thinker - may be a non-conformist.
- Persistence

Then there are other characteristics that may be a little more difficult to live with:

- Perfectionism
- Supersensitivity or heightened senses (can’t stand the toes of the socks to be on “wrong,” requires the tags in shirts to be cut off, or overly sensitive to light or sound or environment, etc.)
- Very intense emotionalism
- High energy levels
- May need little sleep
- Stubbornness (the extreme side of persistence :-)
- Unable to finish all projects begun
- Dislikes taking time for precision
- Impatient with details

Intellectually gifted kids are not always the honors students with the best scores. Some kids don’t test well and some gifted kids aren’t academically inclined. Add to that: undiagnosed learning disabilities, boredom, behavior problems, hyperactivity, and you can see - it’s not always easy being gifted!

Society’s attitudes

It appears to be more acceptable in our society to be athletically gifted, or musically gifted, or artistically gifted, or even socially gifted (leadership), than it is to be academically gifted. Parents need to search out the best in education, resources, and opportunities for their gifted learners, just as they would for their athletes and musicians. Use tact when discussing accomplishments, but don’t ignore them either.

All gifted students are not the same

Use what you know about your child in order to guide and motivate him/her. Some students need to be prodded into working to their capabilities, while others are perfectionists and need help learning to lighten up.

There is more to life than just academics

Don’t neglect important things like spiritual development, character, service to others, fine arts, etc. Social skills should not be overlooked either. Does your child know how to behave in various situations? Are they comfortable with both peers and adults?

Mentoring

Look to families with gifted children who are older than yours. Pick their brains, find out what worked and what didn’t. Then be a mentor to a family with younger gifted kids.

Don’t assume others can teach your child better than you can. Gifted programs, classes, and schools may look enticing, but look very closely! There is much New Age teaching and other garbage being used as “gifted programs.” You know your student better than anyone else. With prayer and reliance on the Lord you can teach gifted children at home.

More than Text Books

Academics are important, but academics means more than textbooks. Use resources and activities that incorporate higher level thinking skills. Examples:

Making books and/or keeping notebooks; give them a place to write those important thoughts. Make a field guide using a camera, plant samples and reference books.
Home made games: assign them the task of designing board or card games based on their studies. This is a great way both to learn and to show what you’ve learned.
Encourage them to put on a play, write a newspaper, invent, or start a business.
Use brainstorming in everyday life: help them to organize thoughts and ideas.

Provide them with plenty of opportunities to learn without making it obvious that it’s “educational.” For example: conversations with adults, interesting hobbies, good magazines and other reading material (fiction and non-fiction), exposure to other languages and cultures, and free time to pursue their dreams and goals.

Nationally Recognized Gifted Programs

CTY/IAAY: Grades 2 and up. Johns Hopkins University has widely recognized programs for gifted youth. Consists of testing to determine eligibility (it is intended for high-end gifted), camps, workshops, symposiums, newsletters, tutorials by mail, and on-line classes, all created for very gifted kids and/or their parents. Contact:

CTY and IAAY The Johns Hopkins University
3400 North Charles Street
Baltimore, MD 21218
1.410.516.0337

Duke has a similar program called TIP (Talent Identification Program) which includes a 7th grade talent search. Duke also publishes a quarterly entitled “Duke Gifted Letter, A Newsletter for Parents of Gifted Children.”

Duke University TIP
Box 90747
Durham, NC 27708
919.684.3847
www.tip.duke.edu/

Other colleges and universities in your area may have testing programs as well as on-line and correspondence courses as well as camps. Investigate carefully, know your child’s needs and personality, and pray before pursuing.

Contests and Competitions

There are numerous contests available. The hard part is picking the one(s) for which you have time! There are well-known ones like the National Geography Bee, Scripts Howard Spelling Bee and Mathematical Olympiads, and there are a number of other contests that might be great fun and quite a learning opportunity for your student. “Invent America!” for example. There are books available describing academic competitions.

Resources

Gifted Children at Home: A Practical Guide for Homeschooling Families

Feeling frustrated in meeting your child’s educational needs? This book will encourage you and give a firm foundation for making important educational decisions. This is your guide to searching out the best possible options, resources, and ideas. Written with hard-earned wisdom from women who’ve “been there, done that.”

Available from Bright Ideas Press.

Includes:
How Do I Know if My Child’s Gifted?
Testing
Acceleration and “Skipping” of Grades
What to Teach and When
Curriculum Choices
Preparing for High School and College
Apprenticeships
National Programs and Contests
Reproducible Forms and more