The thought of homeschooling through high school seems to put our fears under a microscope like magnifying a dust mite. We can do something about dust mites when we keep them in their natural perspective and we can do something about high school. Here are 10 high school fears typically magnified far out of proportion to their real life size.
1. Terrifying Transcripts
A piece of paper with your child’s personal information, courses taken, and grades received. That’s about it.
2. Distressing Diploma
An optional (in Florida, at least) piece of paper declaring the deed is done. Again, pretty easy. It can be handmade, printed on the computer, or ordered from a diploma company. It’s just paper.
3. Woeful Work
Work is what is behind the transcript and the diploma. The planning is your work; the course work is your child’s. Nearing adulthood, a high schooler should be taking on more and more of the responsibility. Be sure to include delight-directed electives to make the work less woe-inducing. And remember the students should be working; you should be planning and recording.
4. Cruel Consequences
Enforcing – or allowing – natural consequences can be hard on a mother. But enabling our children now will only intensify the problem further down the road. Consequences need not be cruel, but they should be real.
5. Resentful Relationships
This is optional. Ending up loving each other deeply is a possibility.
6. Stupid Fears
This is the old I’m Not Smart Enough fear. Think of the dumbest high school teacher you ever had. See? You can do it.
7. Aversion to Adversity, or I’ll Have to Teach Hard Stuff
Again, this is optional. Your student needs to learn hard stuff, but you don’t necessarily have to teach it. Self-study textbooks, unit studies, self-directed research projects, co-ops — the options are many.
8. Shortage of Socialization
Assign the topic as a research project. Have your child define socialization, then analyze their behavior as a comparison. They may come back to you saying, “I’m socialized, but adults out there are something else!”
9. Fearing Fearlessness
Fear is optional. If you are confident going into the homeschool halls of high school and look forward to it, embrace the joy of the journey!
10. Effete Electives
Trust your children on this one. Find out what they are interested in and create a plan with their input to develop their passions. If they need structure, provide it. If they need guidance, give them ideas. If they need independence, offer it, recording what they did rather than what they are going to do.