The thought of homeschooling through high school seems to put our fears under a microscope like magnifying a dust mite.  We can do something about dust mites when we keep them in their natural perspective and we can do something about high school.  Here are 10 high school fears typically magnified far out of proportion to their real life size.

1.  Terrifying Transcripts

A piece of paper with your child’s personal information, courses taken, and grades received.  That’s about it.

2.  Distressing Diploma

An optional (in Florida, at least) piece of paper declaring the deed is done.  Again, pretty easy.  It can be handmade, printed on the computer, or ordered from a diploma company.  It’s just paper.

3. Woeful Work

Work is what is behind the transcript and the diploma.  The planning is your work; the course work is your child’s.   Nearing adulthood, a high schooler should be taking on more and more of the responsibility.  Be sure to include delight-directed electives to make the work less woe-inducing.  And remember the students should be working; you should be planning and recording.

4.  Cruel Consequences

Enforcing – or allowing – natural consequences can be hard on a mother.  But enabling our children now will only intensify the problem further down the road.  Consequences need not be cruel, but they should be real.

5.  Resentful Relationships

This is optional.  Ending up loving each other deeply is a possibility.

6.  Stupid Fears

This is the old I’m Not Smart Enough fear.  Think of the dumbest high school teacher you ever had.  See?  You can do it.

7.  Aversion to Adversity, or I’ll Have to Teach Hard Stuff

Again, this is optional.  Your student needs to learn hard stuff, but you don’t necessarily have to teach it.  Self-study textbooks, unit studies, self-directed research projects, co-ops — the options are many. 

8.  Shortage of Socialization

Assign the topic as a research project.  Have your child define socialization, then analyze their behavior as a comparison.   They may come back to you saying, “I’m socialized, but adults out there are something else!”

9.  Fearing Fearlessness

Fear is optional.  If you are confident going into the homeschool halls of high school and look forward to it, embrace the joy of the journey!

10.  Effete Electives

Trust your children on this one.  Find out what they are interested in and create a plan with their input to develop their passions.  If they need structure, provide it.  If they need guidance, give them ideas.  If they need independence, offer it, recording what they did rather than what they are going to do.

Now, what’s so scary about high school?

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I remember the year my husband and I were fortunate enough to be able to take our first cruise. Homeschool Adventures asked Maggie to be a speaker at the homeschool conference they were holding on a Carnival’s cruise ship. I had long before thought of having a homeschool conference on a cruise ship, and I told Maggie that she and Bob weren’t allowed to go without us!

I was pretty desperate for a vacation, and I loved every moment of it. In Mexico we saw ruins. We snorkeled for the first time. The whole thing was a blast. Of course, even if we’d just sailed around the water on the ship, I’d have been happy. Everything you’ve ever heard about the never-ending, yummy food on a cruise ship is true. Because I was in my first trimester of pregnancy, I took full advantage of having great food and not having to prepare it.

This was a homeschool cruise, and there were many great speakers–Jim Weiss, Cathy Duffy, Dinah Zike and our very own Maggie Hogan. But did I go to more than two workshops? No–let’s get real, folks–I was on my very first cruise! We did get to sit at the speakers’ table, though, and hob-nob with the celebrities. Picture my saying in a high, excited voice, “Dinah Zike? You’re THE Dinah Zike? Cathy Duffy? THE Cathy Duffy?”

I truly had the time of my life. However, I spent most of it trying to figure out how I was going to stow away and stay on the ship or how our lives could be rearranged so that we could sell all our stuff, get jobs on the ship, and homeschool on the ocean. As you read this, you probably laugh, thinking I’m kidding.

I was not kidding. I was desperate. I did not want to go home. I did not want to face those whiny children. I did not want to play the “Do we have to do school today?…Why do I have to do math?…But I hate science!” game again. Fortunately, I could never figure out how to pull off my stow-away plan, and I ended up back at home, homeschooling again the next week.

Fast forward to March. I began planning a trip to our state homeschool conference, four hours away. My friends had never been and weren’t sure they wanted to go. I had to beg. Hard. I had to pray. Hard.

I thought I was going to end up going by myself. But a couple of weeks before the weekend arrived, we had eight gals going. And from the get-go, we had a blast. Even the drive was invigorating  We shared our issues, our struggles, and our successes. We reminded each other why we homeschool. We reassured and suggested. We comforted and commiserated.

Then we arrived and saw more vendor booths than you can imagine. Going to CHAP would be enough for me if I bought nothing, heard nothing. Just to sit and watch that many people who are like-minded, so committed to going against the establishment, would be enough. Seeing so many families willing to walk in faith and commit themselves fully to training not only their children’s minds, but their character, on an on-going basis, always brings me to tears at some point during the weekend. But I also got to look at curriculum, buy fun books at one of my favorite vendors, Good Steward Books, and hear fabulous speaker. (I especially loved the main speakers, but I enjoyed Diana Waring and Tammy Duby, as well.)

We all went out for a yummy dinner where we had a huge table and shared our favorite moments of the day. we went back to the hotel and stayed up late, sharing our purchases and bargains and coming up with a game-plan for the next day. After eight more hours Saturday, I was ready to go home. I couldn’t wait to see my children, to hug them, to tell them I loved them, and remind them that we love them so much that my job is to stay home and teach them.

Why was my state homeschool conference better than a week-long cruise?  I came home with a plan. I came home with ideas for how to make next year (next month and next week) better. I came home with the reminder that it is only by God’s daily grace and by continual leaning on Him that I can get up each morning and spend the day trying to stay a step ahead of my kids–be witty, take advantage of teachable moments, discipline appropriately, and enjoy these precious gifts that God has bestowed on us. I came home with hope.

My best spring advice? Plan now – even if it’s last minute – to get to a homeschool conference this year.

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No one told me 16 years ago when I started homeschooling our oldest child that I’d still be homeschooling 16 years later, with 13 more years to go. I’m thankful they didn’t because I’m pretty sure I would have doubled over laughing until I crumpled into a crying heap.

I love homeschooling, but I did not intend to make a career out of it. Guess I should have thought of that when we had 8 kids, huh?

I speak to a lot of brand new homeschoolers at conventions every year, and my blog offers a smorgasbord of help to those just beginning their school-at-home journey. They are a bright-eyed, enthusiastic crowd, soaking up the vocabulary of homeschooling, from Charlotte Mason to Singapore Math, asking a hundred questions and leaving with bags full of catalogs and notes feverishly scrawled on the back of the conference program.

I love those novice homeschoolers, but clearly I am not one of them. I no longer get excited by the red bins of discount colored pencils at Target each August, and I delete most curriculum companies’ emails as they hit my inbox, yawning as my finger taps the keyboard.

What’s a homeschool mom in a mid-career slump to do? I’ve really had to dig deep these past two years to propel myself along, and this spring I finally embraced the fact that I have a major case of homeschool meh. Admitting I’m less than excited about homeschooling has helped me to create some direction.

5 Ways to Combat a Mid-Career Homeschooling Slump

1. Admit you don’t want to do this anymore, or at the least aren’t as excited about it as you once were. Acknowledgement is the first step to recovery.
2. Scale back to the academic non-negotiables and forget the cute things other (younger, newer) homeschoolers are executing, photographing, and pinning on Pinterest. Good for them! A fairy garden topographical to-scale map of Budapest is not for you right now.
3. Feed your brain something other than educational material. Read a mystery novel or learn to surf. I’m not kidding about that last one; I learned to surf two years ago, and now I read Surfer magazine in my spare time. What have you always wanted to learn about and do? Do that.
4. Make the household stuff even simpler than before. I’m willing to bet that it’s not the All American History or Christian Kids Explore Science that’s pulling you under. It’s the laundry that never goes away and the three meals a day plus snacks. I made a breakfast and lunch menu in September last year that has us serving the same meals made by the same kids each week. We’re on auto-pilot now, and I stepped out of the kitchen cockpit for two-thirds of our daily food preparation. Score!
5. Get as much help as possible. If you can afford a housekeeper every week, awesome. Once a year? Fantastic. She’ll bail you out. Join a co-op, sign up for online classes, use a pre-planned curriculum (Illuminations = awesome). Outsource.

And of course, I do a lot of praying. I see our homeschool as a vibrant, living place for young people to grow and get the gospel, to launch from and make a big impact on their world. When I remember why we started this whole thing in the first place, I get a renewed excitement about the years ahead of us.

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The end of the school year is near.  How do we finish everything and still love our families and they still love us?  Here are a few tips to get you through the final weeks.

Procrastinate

But only if you like that sort of last minute stress.  And only if you are singularly responsible for the final result.  If someone is waiting for you to do your job so they can do theirs, see the next point.

Don’t Procrastinate

You may enjoy the stress, but do your children?  Does your husband?  Do others to whom you are accountable?  Out of love for them, remember that not everyone thrives on the last minute.

Make a Plan

Write down everything that needs to be done before you close the books for the summer. Not that we ever close all books for the summer – in fact, we get to open some we’ve been waiting all year for!

Dream About Summer

Take time to think about the fun things you’ll do with your children this summer, things like reading

curriculum catalogs in the backyard while they play in the sprinkler.

Think on These Things

“Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy–meditate on these things.”  Philippians 4:8

Finish the Textbooks

Or don’t.  If you just can’t leave a book unfinished, scan through to the end with your children.  Teach them how to look for key words and concepts.  Discuss the illustrations.  If something piques their interest, hang out for a few extra moments on that page or in that chapter and then continue scanning.

Invite Exploration

A child’s curiosity may lead her to learn more about the edu-appetizer offered in your scanning.  Let them explore the topic.  Plan a library trip during the last weeks of school and let them browse the non-fiction shelves.  Let all ages – young and old – pick out picture books on current fascinations.  You, too, Mom!

Underschedule

Saying no is a gift to your family.  You may feel the need to run and go, but do they?  Some children need time to process, to be still, to be listened to, to choose their own downtime interests.

Enjoy your children

There are three times homeschooling can distract us from enjoying our young ones: the beginning of the year, the middle of the year, and the end of the year.

Listen to Your Children

They may be saying more than we are hearing.

Be Thankful for the Acronym A.N.Y.

Always Next Year.  Until graduation, that is.

Then and now, be thankful there is still motherhood to enjoy.

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Raise your hand if you are ready for winter to go away.

*raises hand*

The weather in Virginia finally broke a couple of days ago, and we took full advantage of the change. I let the kids leave their math books inside, their reading on the shelf, and the history DVDs in the cases.

Lucky for me, science is a take-a-long activity– especially physics.

After doing some of the hands-on activities in our Christian Kids Explore Physics book, the girls wanted to keep “playing,” so I went on a search for fun demonstrations of motion, force, friction, and energy.

Here are ten of their favorite demonstrations from the Christian Kids Explore Physics book:

1. Color, Light, and Absorbing Heat: The children put on different colored t-shirts and sat in the sun.  Then we discussed who had the warmer back– the one in the white shirt or the one in the darker shirt.
2. Color, Light, and Absorbing Heat: We used rocks to hold a white and a black piece of paper to our driveway. After a while, we felt under the paper to see which piece of driveway was the warmest.
3. Density: Will it sink or will it float?  This was fun for our preschooler. She didn’t understand the density discussion, but she enjoyed coloring her observations. We took a small tub of water outside, and they gathered items to test.
4. Balloon rockets: Blow up balloons and let them go.  Discuss thrust and air pressure.
5. Car races: Push toy cars along various surfaces: grass, driveway, sidewalk, deck board, etc.  Discuss friction, force, and energy.
6. Motion: We calculated average speed by walking a set distance. Then we tried it while running, riding bikes, and riding scooters.
   
7. Friction: Box Buggy slide each other down the street in a cardboard box. The children discovered that  pushing the 2-year-old was considerably easier than pushing the tween.
8. Sound: After a nice picnic in the front yard, we closed our eyes and listened to the springtime sounds around us.
9. Static Electricity: Separating salt and pepper – mix salt and pepper on a plate. Blow up a balloon and rub it on your hair to create static. Now hold it next to the plate and watch the pepper jump onto the balloon.
10. Make A Rainbow: Use a spray bottle or water hose to create a fine mist. Observe how the droplets of water create a rainbow from the sunlight.

I am certainly appreciating the way Christian Kids Explore Science presents scientific information to children. Even complicated topics with  fancy words are easy to understand. When we were outside, we were able to discuss the physics principles of our games with ease.

Have you ever moved your classroom outside during nice weather?

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How many times have you uttered to yourself the sentiment in these words of Dr. Seuss?

How did it get so late so soon?

You were going online only to research a project for school, to see if today’s blog post published, or to check email. Ninety minutes later, you realize your one-minute task side-tracked your entire day.

What is the answer to time management that really works? One solution is a lowly kitchen timer. This low-tech gadget can be a life-saver in a variety of situations.

Timer Ideas for Homeschooling

• Everyone take a fifteen minute break to get out of the chair. This is especially important for high school students who find themselves sitting for long periods of time.
• Journal the highlights of the school week. Take a moment to reflect on triumphs.
• Set the timer for 10, 15 or 20 minutes and spend it one-on-one with a child. Shut off all distractions and listen to them. If you have more then one child, you may need to think creatively on how to do this, maybe even rotating each child through out the week.

Timer Ideas for the Computer

• Work on filing and categorizing tax information. Come April, you will be very thankful you invested this.
• Read one or two blogs and leave a grateful or encouraging comment.
• Pick one social media platform and engage for a limited amount of time.

Timer Ideas for Personal Use

• If you are on the second re-heat of your coffee or tea, set the timer for 15-minutes and drink this cup while its still hot. Let your mind rest while you enjoy the hot beverage.
• Take a nap, have a few moments of quiet, or read your Bible –refuel your mind. For me, fifteen minutes of afternoon quite recharges my brain.
• Do one thing that you keep putting off– balancing the checkbook, returning a phone call or cleaning the bathroom. Sometimes accomplishing that one thing that keeps bugging you can make the rest of the day more enjoyable.

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Hobbies translate into occupied hands and occupied minds.  Occupied is different from busy.  For every minute children are occupied in productive or creative thought, the mama gains a minute of peace, and possibly – depending on the child’s hobby – quiet.

Parents need children to have hobbies.

Hobbies For Homeschool Children:  When and Where

Some children’s hobbies will require parents to travel to games, to attend formal events, or to sit through day-long chess tournaments. Other hobbies will be done at home and will be so quiet you will wonder if you even have children in the house. Some hobbies will be independently enjoyed, like reading, writing, and art.  Others will be more social, like military strategy games.

Children’s hobbies will change over time.  Or not.  Be flexible in both cases.

What Should They Do as a Hobby?

This is the fun part!  Let your children choose their hobby – within the family budget and other limits of reality, of course.

Here are some Hobby Ideas.

• Bug Collecting
• Rock Collecting
• Flower Collecting and Pressing
• Nature Journaling
• Sticker Collecting
• Operation Christmas Child Shoebox Item Crafting
• Photography
• Painting
• Beading
• Tabletop War Gaming
• Yarn Crafts
• Stargazing

How to Get Started

Starting with a huge kit and professional supplies can overwhelm a child right out of an interest.  Avoid the temptation to make the hobby into a full-blown homeschool unit study.  Start simple and let the child grow into the interest as the interest grows in the child.

Ask your children if they would like your help with their hobby, but try not to act too disappointed when they turn you down.  Some hobbies are more fun when done alone.

And that’s one of our objectives as homeschooling parents– to provide opportunities that engage their minds, energy, and attention with the goal of being independent.

And their independence offers you the gift of time for your hobby.

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