While Children Are Yet Children, Adults are Still LearningSuzanne Broadhurst
Our world seems to have forgotten that children are yet children. It’s still okay for children to be children, for they are yet children. It’s even understandable for children to not handle life as adults because they are not yet adults.
And crazy as this may sound it’s understandable for adults to not act like adults when they haven’t had the necessary time, input, and experiences to grow into their adult wings.
Expectations of Childhood
When we have children, we expect their gaps need filling. Other than their sweet smells and their adorable smiles, the rest is pretty much gap-esque.
Tummies are empty, minds are vacuum cleaners sucking in information with every experience, emotions are waiting to be validated – or denied. Even their gums are gap-filled, waiting for teeth to grow in.
We know that gaps leave room for growth.
Pain of Lifelong Weeding
Of course, as parents, we would want, if at all possible, our children to leave home fully formed, all the little crevices and cracks filled in with wisdom and knowledge.
We know weeds grow in cracks.
We don’t want our children to have to weed their lives — maybe because we know the pain of weeding ourselves.
But where growth is necessary, weeding is mandatory. And that means …
Lifelong growth requires lifelong weeding.
Expectations of Adulthood
As adults, however, somewhere along the line we develop a certain expectation of ourselves and of each other.
We expect we should “know by now.” But some of us don’t know. There are many reasons for that, some of which I recently read about in a book on integrity.
Humanism Leaves Humanity Behind
While we struggle with expectations, there is pressure on parents, especially homeschooling parents, to be gapless themselves.
Humanism is running rampant and people are being left behind in the stampede.
If you are struggling with gaps in your own life, in your own relationships, you are not alone.
And that’s really all I wanted to say. I know I’m leaving gaps, but I hope you use the gaps as an impetus for growth.
- Talk to God about your gaps.
- Glean from Bible truths about the missing pieces in your life.
- Read books about human growth and development.
- Keep pressing on, filling gaps and finding God’s peace, wisdom and mercies in the process.
Gap Filling Takes Time
It’s okay to take time for yourselves; the kids will be fine playing or reading quietly for a bit. Take time to allow God to fill your gaps with wisdom and knowledge.
Your Gap-Filling Becomes Inspiration for Your Children
What an inspiration you will be to your own children when they begin to realize they too have gaps in their hearts, minds, and lives.
When they look in their rear view mirrors, may they remember seeing mom and dad seeking wisdom and strength.
What a gift you will be giving them later as you take care of yourselves now.