Face Your Homeschool FearsTicia Messing
I’m scared of heights.
As in, “No kids, don’t go near that edge. I know you’re standing 10 feet away, but I’m already imagining the horrible things that are going to happen to you” scared.
Then last year our church had a rock wall. I like climbing, but the rock wall experience ends with speeding down a zip line from over 100 feet high.* My boys were all excited to try it, and my husband challenged me to do it. I wanted to set a good example of facing my fears to my children and to the kids in my Sunday School class who were there watching.
So I climbed. ALL. THE. WAY. TO. THE. TOP. That wasn’t the scary part. The scary part came when they expected me to jump off and trust the zip line to keep me from falling.
But I did it. I faced and overcame my fear of heights.
What is your homeschool fear?
When I started homeschooling, I was afraid my kids wouldn’t learn how to read. Although I have taught first grade and shown entire classrooms of kids how to read, it’s still a mystery to me.
But you know what?
My kids learned to read. Slowly, over time, not as fast as everyone else, but they learned.
With that hurdle conquered, I have other fears:
- Will they keep up?
- Will they have gaps in their learning?
- How will they react to high school?
- Will they get into college?
I have to choose not to let my fears control me, just like when I climbed that wall.
How to conquer your homeschool fears
Are you ready for a few ways to face your homeschool fears? These tips are what have helped me.
- Examine your fear. Is the fear reasonable? Some fears are, and you can make a plan to ensure your fear doesn’t come true. Some fears are irrational and have no place in your life. That’s when you need to move to step 2.
- Read your Bible. I’m sure you’ve heard it quoted, but “Do not fear” is the most often repeated command. That means God recognizes we will fear, but we shouldn’t. One of my favorite Bible verses put to music is Isaiah 43. It gives all sorts of horrid scenarios where you should not fear because God is with you.
- Look for accountability. Find another homeschool mom or ask your husband to step up and call you when you’re giving in to your fear.
- Develop a plan for legitimate fears. When I was worried about the kids learning to read and the first reading curriculum we used didn’t work, I researched and tried again. I found a plan and took action. You need to do this with your fears.
Just as reminder, here’s Isaiah 43:1-7:
1 But now thus says the Lord,
he who created you, O Jacob,
he who formed you, O Israel:
“Fear not, for I have redeemed you;
I have called you by name, you are mine.
2 When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you;
when you walk through fire you shall not be burned,
and the flame shall not consume you.
3 For I am the Lord your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
I give Egypt as your ransom,
Cush and Seba in exchange for you.
4 Because you are precious in my eyes,
and honored, and I love you,
I give men in return for you,
peoples in exchange for your life.
5 Fear not, for I am with you;
I will bring your offspring from the east,
and from the west I will gather you.
6 I will say to the north, Give up,
and to the south, Do not withhold;
bring my sons from afar
and my daughters from the end of the earth,
7 everyone who is called by my name,
whom I created for my glory,
whom I formed and made.”
*Disclsoure, it may have only been 50 feet. I have no idea, but it sure felt like at least 100 feet.